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對某個問題保持正確“不”意味著你的行為正常！傑克斯經常是對的 - 但他們仍然是混蛋。如果他們說的話有些值得聽，那就听聞了，因為沒有人喜歡聽他們。它們是多麼正確並不重要。
Coping with accusations of jerkitude[编辑]
If you've been labeled a jerk, especially if you have been told this by several people in a particular community, it might be wise to consider the possibility that the accusations hold at least some measure of truth. If you suspect that you may have a problem, the first step is to become aware of it. Ask yourself what behaviours might be causing this perception, and if you can't work it out, politely ask those that perceive it to explain or clarify. Once you have determined which behaviours are causing the problem, try changing them and your mode of presentation. In particular, identify the harsh manners in your communications and replace them with softer ones.
Honestly examine your motivations. Are you here to contribute and make the project good? Or is your goal really to find fault, get your views across, or be the one in control? Perhaps secretly inside you even enjoy the thrill of a little confrontation. This may not make you a bad person, but to everyone who is busily trying to build something great, you become an impediment. People get frustrated, rancour ensues, the atmosphere changes, and the whole project suffers. Are you here to give, or to take?
How to deal with others[编辑]
Telling someone "don't be a jerk" is generally wrong – especially if it's true. It upsets the other person and reduces the chance that they'll listen to what you say.
Focus on behaviour, not on individuals. Say what you want and why you want it. Say why you think the other person's behaviour is counterproductive. Assume good faith to the maximum extent possible. If you don't understand why someone is doing something, ask. Don't rush to complain until you are sure that good faith negotiations can't work. Understand before insisting on being understood.
Remember that your perception can be wrong. If the other person is writing in an unfamiliar language, or has a different cultural background, you may misunderstand their intentions.
Above all, be genuine. Don't ask questions when you know the answer. Don't say you want one thing if you want another. Don't try to persuade people of things that aren't true. Do not respond to jerkitude in kind, no matter how tempting it may be.
- – Wikipedia behavioral guideline
- Don't be dense – Wikimedia essay
- – a guide to building a civilized workplace, by Robert Sutton.
- – Wikipedia policy
- WikipediAhimsa – Wikimedia essay
- – Wikipedia essay
- – Wikipedia essay on conduct policy
- – Wikipedia essay
- – Wikipedia essay (on policy effects of people being jerks)
- Be a sunshine supporter – Wikimedia essay
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- Doctorow, Cory. "How to Keep Hostile Jerks from Taking Over Your Online Community". InformationWeek. TechWeb Business Technology Network. 14 May 2007 [22 September 2015].